Have you ever been in a situation where you felt ashamed of your mother’s attires because they were not as sophisticated as you wished they were, or maybe felt too embarrassed to talk about your single mother’s slightly less than average income profession in front of your class, or started a fight with your divorced mother because she could not tolerate your father’s attitude for a little longer so you can take a different companion than her to your school parent-teacher meetings? But, have you ever tried to take a pause and see beyond the picture, to notice that your mother decided to wear the outfit she has been recurrently wearing once more so she can purchase the latest trends for you, to see the emotional and physical pressure under which she deliberately put herself to afford your school fees, or to realize that your father would not have exempt you from his abuse if she did not put an end to their relationship.
As children or teenagers, we know very little about how selfless a mother can be, or how ready she is to sacrifice her own happiness to maintain our own. We really believed that our moms are full every time they pretend to be so because there is not enough dessert for everyone or just because you loved it and wished to have an extra piece, and we’re convinced that she no longer wants the dress for which she has been saving for weeks when she offered to use her savings to get you the same Nike that your friend has, just so you do not feel less. Mothers very often place themselves at the very bottom of their priorities list, pull off dark circles and stand out in the suits they had for almost a decade, just so they will not ‘squander’ the money they have put aside to satisfy your own needs, and even what is not a need, just so you do not feel any less.
Mothers never expect you to treat them the same way they did or even clap to their efforts and sacrifices, but just to thrive and prosper. Mothers are driven by their instinct to feed your confidence, to boost your motivation, and increase your self-esteem so that you can walk fearlessly towards your dreams; they offer you the expertise and guidance you would usually pay to receive, and still expect nothing in return, except for witnessing your own victory. Mothers are too selfless to use the pronoun “I” while making a plan, they put you first and second until no other rank is empty then squeeze themselves somewhere between “when my children graduate” and “when my children are fully independent”; however, even then, they would still pretend to be full, healthy, and that their worn-out clothes are still too new to be disposed of, just so you do not feel less.
It is never too late to try harder for your mom, and it is never embarrassing to hold your mother’s hand outside with pride. Moms, always allow you to shout louder and feel stronger, and always sleep with one eye open so you can be safe, and indeed you feel safe, until you get to experience how cruel and cold the world actually is, and realize that it is your mom who made things look easier, safer, warmer, and prettier. Maybe this time you should have dinner with your mom and compliment the food she made instead of complaining about the peas and the overcooked meat or smile to her in the morning instead of blaming her for raising the TV volume to 40, or maybe thread the needle with the eye that is too small for her fifty years old sight instead of rolling your eyes every time she asks you to, or simply tell her how much of a beautiful job the time and gravity did in lining her skin. Maybe this time, it is your time to not let her feel less.